10/07/2003 09:27:00 AM by Rob

Random shots from here and there

Like tantric sex, I am saving up all of my Cub juice throughout the day until I can orgasmically bust out in a joyful display of Cub Blueness. Until then, here are a few thoughts I have to push out for now.

First, if you want to know about how the other side is feeling during the series, check out the Gospel According to Mike, which will have Marlinscentric commentary about the goings on this week. I am as we speak having a nice, inexpensive conversation with him, and I told him that I like the way his team looks, long term. In the short term, we gotta win this thing.

Next, Happy Recall Day to all of you in Cal-Lee-Forn-Nee-Ah. All I can say is if you elect the Sperminator as your Governor, then you are reaping what you have sown.

Finally, got a chance to check out some real life marriage, with Nick Lachey and Jessica Simpson. This is good stuff, people. Here's the thing, Nick is handsome, rich, successful, kind of dumb, and pretty intolerant. Jessica is hot, rich, successful, pretty dumb, and most of all, spoiled beyond belief. I think she is not so much dumb, as she just is completely out of touch with how us "commoners" live. I like this show because it completely illustrates why so many people, and in particular celebrities , marry and divorce as often as I buy new shoes. (of course, I include myself in here).

1) People are just not careful enough when choosing a mate.

2) People are just too self-centered, unrealistic, intolerant, and most of all, irresponsible after having chosen one.

I can see it from Nick's point of view. He fell in love with an image, an icon, a totally hot babe. Probably the sex was mind-blowing insane, and they both probably expressed the right level of satisfaction and appreciation for each other's contribution. They both probably enjoyed being with each other, and at the same time they both probably still possess some vestige of old-world prudishness about living together. So they married, and now, they have to live with one another every day.

It is easy to see how he could be disappointed with her, in a daily dose, and she of him.

Here's where the responsibility part comes in. There is almost no emphasis anymore in personal responsibility, particulary in a marriage. In America, if you aren't happy, if you somehow feel uncomfortable, there is no stigma in simply walking away, and I can't be more emphatic in my belief that this is just fucked. Nick, you married her, and if I hear in a year's time, or two year's time, or five years from now that you are "amicably seperating", then I will be completely disappointed in both of you.

My wife disappoints me at times, and I disappoint her, too. She is not quite the person I thought I married, and I am not quite what she thought she was getting, too. But I took a vow, and a responsbility, to accept her the way she is. She is not cheating on me, or hurting me, or my kids in any way. She doesn't have the energy for life I thought she had, and I am not as secure in myself as she would like, either. But we both must accept that about each other, and make the best of it, and work around each other. We both must sacrifice, compromise, and give of ourselves. We both must alter our expectations a little, to more closely align with what the other is able to give.

We have to bend, a little. And we Americans have become so ego-driven, so immersed in ourselves, that most of us aren't willing to bend an inch. My first wife was not willing to concede anything to me, and my second wife wasn't going to bend one micron. Her way, or the highway. My wife and I bend all sorts of ways for each other. It's going to work, because neither one of us feel that our "selves" are so important, it takes precedent over what the other one may need.

I hope Jessica and Nick can figure that out for themselves, or else.

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